Guiding you to the joy within and without, with Peace, Love, and Understanding.

Rose Quartz


‘With love and gentleness, I will hold your heart. Breath with me and allow my energy to soften yours. Expand, with each breath, and open your big beautiful heart, dear one. If you let me, I will show you how loved you are. I will lead you to more opportunities for loving, more openness toward other souls, compassion for yourself, and for your brothers and sisters. You choose, will you create the space for this knowing? With your permission, my energy will bring you comfort, peace, and love from above, below, and most importantly: WithIN.

Shine sweet soul, SHINE.

This is what Rose Quartz says when we open up opportunities to work with her energy. I say ‘her’ because it is a feminine energy that exudes from this sweet crystal. With her calming touch, we begin to understand how much we are loved, how much we are supported, and we can begin to attract more of this kind of love into our lives by embodying the messages that lies within her.

Rose Quartz energy provides an ‘envelope’ of love around your energetic body, activating the heart chakra for the illumination of ones own innate love. Not only is she a heart chakra activator, she works wonders for healing and opening the third eye, the crown chakra, and working on the sacral chakra as well. Don’t be fooled by her soft pink hews, she is a powerful healer. Being from the element of water, strong emotions may arise while working with Rose Quartz. This is healthy, this is the opening. Allow yourself to feel it all. This may be wounds surfacing for the purpose of awareness and healing, ultimately creating the opportunity for forgiveness and letting go. The sensation of profound oneness may arise, as the lover and the beloved become one, within or in relationship. When we truly experience love, thoughts of giving and receiving dissipate as we see it is not the goal, but it is what we ARE.

Rose Quartz energy acts as a soothing balm for the emotional and physical body. Softening the edges around tension, comforting the heart through challenging times, and redirecting us back to the ‘heart’ of the matter, what really counts. It shows us we are not alone even in our darkest times, and holds us sweetly, allowing release of stress and dissolution of anger and resentment. She can dispel fear or suspicion, and rebirth hope, faith and love, as she is one of the stones of the Great Mother. Working with Rose Quartz will create more harmony in your every day interactions as well as in your more intimate home life. She is one of the most humble stones for being as powerful as she is, carrying the love of Christ consciousness and other heart-centered spiritual masters.

Rose Quartz knows that not every day is ‘roses and sunshine’ but she can lend a hand with all your emotional needs. Being from the Quartz family, holding the hardness of 7 on the MOHS scale and belonging to the hexagon/trigonal family, it’s a wonderful stone to use in blessing your water, for nourishment of your body, pets and plants. I could not recommend enough incorporating Rose Quartz into your crystal tool kit if you haven’t already!

I hope you find this information inspiring to go and rest and play with your Rose Quartz today. Enjoy the blessings she has to offer, share and shine your love with the world!

With much ALOHA

Katie Wise ACM

Grounding exercises and helpful Hematite!


        This silvery grey stone is one of the most abundant minerals found in the earths crust. Its the most important ore of iron, used for its pigment, radiation shielding, and many other industrial uses. Hematite is found as deep as Geologists have been able to reach in the earths crust, making it, more likely, part of our inner core of the planet, in a liquid magma form. Pretty crazy to ponder on right?! The center of our planet is hot liquid iron magma! Of course this is speculation, but highly educated speculation. No one has drilled all the way to the earths inner core, I’m not sure that would be a good idea. In fact, I’m pretty sure it would be a terrible idea, but I’m not a scientist. Anyway, these fun facts about Hematite help explain why it is a wonderful choice for connecting to the earth, and used as a grounding stone. Not sure what that means to ground? Well…lets start with what it means to be UNgrounded, or ‘where the root chakra is not functioning at its greatest potential’.


Have you ever felt a little out of sorts, maybe a bit scattered or floaty? Some may call it flighty, klutzy or, the term I’d like to share which energetic practitioners use often is, ungrounded. These are just a few symptoms you may experience if your not rooted in your body completely:

  • Survival needs not being met
  • Money issues
  • Home/shelter issues
  • Misuse of physical energy, difficulty with time management skills
  • Unhealthy attachment to material things
  • Many issues rooted in fear
  • Clumsiness or coordination issues
  • Lack of confidence or overly confident (yes, this happens when overactive)
  • Escapism
  • Disconnection from the world, dread, depression, low libido, repressed sexuality, addiction to substances
  • Physical issues associated with adrenal glands, large intestine, diarrhea or constipation, hips, spinal column, blood, or kidneys to name a few…


I know this can be overwhelming and may come as a surprise to many people, but most of us all are challenged with staying grounded in our bodies. The reasons intimately will all differ, but generally we all experience these worries about bills, food, family life, relationship issues and the like. Of course we would want to escape these worries, they suck! But we can’t avoid them entirely, this avoidance causes more disconnection. Not being connected to our bodies, or physical responsibilities for too long can actually make matters worse. If you relate to any of these symptoms, know that its ok, you’re ok, awareness is the first step in change, so now that we see where we may need change, lets work on that!


I’m sure you’re saying to yourselves by now ‘So what does it freakin mean to ground, and how do I do this already, Katie!?’ Ok, ok, Im getting to the good stuff!


What does it mean to be ‘grounded’ anyway? Not so much like when we were kids and our parents told us to go to our room. But the idea our parents had was close, sending a child to their room, in hopes that they get in touch with the reality of their actions and the consequences that follow is the basic idea most parents are hoping for, I believe. To be in the physical reality of the consequences of our actions… Not running from them, this takes some humility at times, and others it takes strength! So grounding your energy is kind of the same thing! Here are symptoms of what it feels like to be fully grounded and present in your body:

  • Centered, focused
  • Courageous and strong
  • Success in the physical world, money flows more freely
  • Easier manifestation
  • Stability and security improves
  • Anxiety lessons, depression starts to lift
  • Sexual energy balances
  • Priorities in place and time management improves
  • Strong survival instincts and trust improves
  • Overall physical wellbeing improves, healthier, more regular bowel movements, healthier bladder, relaxed strong gate (that your walk 😉
  • Connection to nature rhythms strengthens
  • Calmer!
  • Confident


We do this by bringing our energy down from the energetic plains that we tend to ‘think’ (get it, too much thinking can be ‘ungrounding’ as well!) we like to live in, holding and keeping it in our body, like a tree root, into the ground. I know we don’t have roots coming out of our tail bone, or our feet for that matter, but in our energetic bodies we kind of do! We can ‘root down, or root into the the planet’ like an anchor.


Just imagine it: You’re a tree, stand up, imagine from your feet, roots are digging themselves into the ground from the bottom of your feet, or if you are sitting, imagine them coming from your tailbone, dig them in deep, so you are firmly ‘planted’.  A trees root system can get as deep as 20 feet, and usually is the same width, if not even wider, than its branches. Imagine you are that!


Another analogy I like is this: You’re a ship. Yes, lets be a ship now, entertain me! Drop anchor and watch it go down, down, down deep into the earth crust, once it goes as far as you can imagine it, give it a tug. Make sure its planted, good and stuck, then come back up, all the way through to your feet, and center in the heart space. This may take a little imagination and practice but most everything starts with a thought so use that imagination as much as you need!


Using Hematite can truly help you in this process, since using the imagination is tough at first sometimes for some, with all we have going on around us, slowing our thoughts alone can be challenging. Here are the steps I like to take that are quick and easy too:

  1. Start with placing two Hematite, one at each foot, and two in each hand while sitting down, or laying if you prefer. (Hematite is pretty inexpensive and easily accessible, its almost everywhere, ask me where if you need some help!)
  2. Quiet space helps, quiet the mind, quiet your thoughts as much as possible. Intention helps this process as well.
  3. Breathe deeply, in the nose, out the mouth, 5 deep cleansing breaths.
  4. Let the breath go to a natural pace now. At this time you can also visualize any negativity, anxiety, or blockages dissolving into the Earth. Imagine peaceful relaxation.
  5. Hold this for about 5 minutes, just 5 minutes, and feel the PULL. You may feel it strong or subtle, everyone is different so its ok and its not a competition.


This pull is YOUR energetic field grounding down! Yep! You are now experiencing what it feels like to be grounded. Thank you to our lovely assistant, Hematite. You will feel calm, relaxed, focused, GROUNDED! YAY! Thats what it feel like! Its pretty easy, but it does take practice and needs to be done at LEAST daily. Utilizing either of the analogies I shared with you here of the tree or boat with Hematite is an excellent practice to incorporate into your routine or whenever needed.


On a more serious side, I am compassionate to all of our human challenges. I am not excluded from this as I am human. We all make mistakes, or trip up, get behind, and even avoid certain things all together at some point. Its part of BEING HUMAN. It can be scary and uncomfortable to accept our reality sometimes, we don’t want to accept those consequences, don’t make me, I don’t wanna. I get it, some days or chapters of our lives are challenging! But when we ground, it actually improves our reality, I promise! Maybe not right away, but it will if you stay consistent and persistent! Hematite and other grounding stones are here to assist you!


So much more of life becomes free and flowing when we ground ourselves, and properly! I hope that this information about Grounding and Hematite helps you find more stability in your life. I do feel it is important to share with you that some people feel as though Hematite doesn’t seem to be grounding enough for them, and that that is totally ok, you may just need a different choice. Just like we are all different, one grounding stone works wonders for some, while others maybe not so much. These breathing and visualization exercises alone can be very helpful, but I would love to connect you to a another crystal choice. As an Advanced Crystal Master Healer, I can assist you in connecting more deeply, narrowing down the root cause (no pun intended, or was it?) or root or other chakra imbalances, and assist you in choosing a stone or stones that better suit your particular needs. I offer a grounding crystal body layout for this very purpose as well. It is one of my greatest pleasures, introducing and connecting you to the crystals. If you’re not quite sure you are doing it right, or if its even working, or you just want to share an experience, please, feel free to share! Lets get IN TOUCH 😉


         Many Crystal Blessings to you and yours, thank you for stopping by! Enjoy <3

Katie Wise ACM



“Happiness is not about what the world gives you – happiness is what you think about what the world gives you.”


This Google executive says he has the secret to happiness, a discovery he says was tested when his young son died suddenly on holiday.


Believe me when I say that this is not new news.  It is not a secret.  What this quote, video, concept, etc. brings to you and your thought process may seem like new news to you but if you think about it long and hard you will find numerous, and when I say numerous I mean like thousands upon thousands upon thousands, of times that you knew this already.  Whether your parents taught it during your upbringing, you learned it in some class in grade school, or it swivels around in your head when you have the choice, you know it already.  You have heard this concept many different ways.  Its relevance in our life is as simple as eating leafy greens and fruits regularly or brushing your teeth daily.   Everyone knows that right?  Brush your teeth.  Eat your veggies.

You can’t deny it.

Life happens.

Life happens to all of us.

BUT… for each and every one of us the shift in true consciousness, to actually brushing your teeth everyday or eating healthier OR… Choosing Happiness, can  be a simple quote.  Or maybe even a blog from some dude like me calling you out on your shit and posting some video of a high paid executive who’s lost his son and uses the same simple principles that YOU ALREADY KNOW to push through life happening to him.  Happiness is a choice My Friends.  Now of course I understand why it’s so hard.  I tell my clients all the time it’s ‘the easiest hardest thing to do’.  I know first hand because I used to be the same way.

And one day…

I watched a video about this concept…


Maybe this is yours !!!

The links in this blog are for the short video that was shared with me yesterday which inspired this WEDNESDAY WONDER.

Below is the full video… which is only twice as long.  Funny Right?!


Crystals for April Pink Full Moon


Full moon medicine is quite healing and can be a powerful time for releasing that which no longer serves us. This could be a habit, an emotion, a job, relationship, you name it, but letting go with the full moon can assist you with this releasing process. When the moon is at its fullest, we set our intentions to let something go, and as the moon begins to wane, we allow this release to fall away from our energy field, our physical, or even our mental space. We then need to make moves to create the change we wish to see, as your full participation is required. But letting it go and giving it to our higher power to do what may seem fit, is the first step. This can be such an empowering and connecting practice to develop, I highly recommend trying it out for yourself, if you haven’t already. With fascination and wonder, we are drawn to the moon. When we utilize the cycles in our releasing and even our manifesting practices, you will find the connection created with her, with your goals or aspirations, even with your body as an undeniable and sweet gift. One I personally cherish, with deep gratitude to our Creator in yet another incredible way we are ALL inter-connected.

As we approach this full moon in Libra, the sign of the scales, there are several different ways to go about a releasing ceremony. One thing I do when working with the moons medicine is incorporate the crystals to enhance and support my process. It has become a neccessary stapler my personal practice, as quite literally the crystal magnify the intentions I set carrying them deeper within, above and below. I wanted to share with you just a few crystals that can help you along the way. But first a little bit of facts regarding this full moon we call pink

According to the old farmers almanac, Pink Full Moon announces the appearance of moss pink, or wild ground phlox—one of the first spring flowers native to the indigenous tribes of northern America. This was in a time in history when the natives did not use a Gregorian calendar but followed the cycles of the moon and the seasons. The moon doesn’t actually appear pink, but it signifies the coming of spring for many of the tribes. With flowers blooming and eggs hatching, the earth is once again springing to life. And what a beautiful time year it is. :)

Libra is the Astrological sign infamously known as the balancing scales. If you have libra as your sun or moon sign, you may be one who always wants things fair, trying to balance things out among your friends or family. You may even find yourself as someone who puts others before yourself and end up getting stressed easily. ‘Libras tend to be kind, gentle and lovers of beauty, harmony and peace. However, in their effort to keep everyone happy, they find it difficult to say ‘NO’ to anyone, and as a result, they end up getting stressed.’

With this, and the Pink Full Moon energy in mind, I chose several pink stones that are great for assisting us in releasing old wounds, and negative thought patterns; in turn facilitating space for more self love and compassion for the self and others, or the situations in which we had been burned. There are many stones to choose from but these 3 were the first that came to my mind, as I have developed a personal relationship and experience with each of them. Before I get started I just want to remind you these are by no means meant to replace any therapy you may be undergoing, but enhance them and, in turn, shorten the duration of need. With that said, my hand went right for the Pink Calcite, without even thinking.

Pink Calcite is a soft soothing energy, that opens the heart and solar plexus. It eases heart ache and pain, clearing past traumas from the emotional body, and fills the heart with universal and self love. Pink Calcite is a nurturing stone that helps us take care of ourselves! It enables us to accept love, act on love, and with loving behavior. Its a high powered stress and tension reliever, and can even help with anxiety. Pink calcite has been known to help us through the practice of radical self awareness, making it easier to be gentle with oneself, and re-center our thoughts to be more loving when the times get tough. It facilitates peace when one may be overwhelmed with life situations, having a calming effect on the nervous system. Making big life changes isn’t always easy, but Pink Calcite can take the edge off, so to speak, acting as a kind reminder to relax and stay in touch with the heart. Physically, Pink Calcite can help us in healing the bones, joints, kidney, uterus, and physical heart issues.

My second choice for this full pink moon is Pink Opal. When working with Pink Opal you will find its messages to come clear but gentle, providing comfort through healing deep past trauma and accepting of ones personal path. Bringing awareness and holding compassion for the self while facing these wounds, it carries us through a soft transition and transmutation. As you know, facing our shadows can be a really uncomfortable process, with Pink Opal it will take the edge off, soothing you like a mother would when her child is facing a major life lesson. Pink Opal is also a stone of love and gentleness. It eases the process of change, brings energies of gentle love and kindness to relationships of all kinds. As with other opals, it also brings inspiration, imagination and creativity. It can help release inhibitions, is known in assisting the release  of fear around intimate relationships, commitment and marriage. It even brings you happy dreams, in this, it is a great stone for children or adults for that matter, who may have night terrors, or experience frequent nightmares. Physically, Pink Opal is helpful for eyesight, heart disease and injury, Parkinson’s disease, lungs, and spleen.

And of course we can’t leave out Rose Quartz, a staple in every healing I perform, and one of my favorite all time go to stones. Rose Quartz is wonderful for easing and healing just about any ailment, emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually. It is the stone of compassionate love, for self and others, wonderful for romantic love as well but great for love all encompassing. With unconditional love and a soft feminine energy healing and nurturing, Rose Quartz assist us in dissolving past wounds of resentment, fear and encircles the whole auric body with divine feminine love. It can assist you through mid-life crisis, time of deep grief and aids in the acceptance of necessary change. When wearing Rose Quartz, you may experience more love. Giving love, receiving love, and the blocks that may be holding you back from accepting more love in my life as well! Yep, crystals can do that for us too, show us our shadows, so we can move through them and heal! Physically Rose Quartz is supportive in the healing of ailments of the thymus, heart, and lungs. female reproductive system, breast cancer, and even known to help with varicose veins and vertigo.

So I am betting you sense a theme here. Compassionate healing with this April Pink Full Moon! there is never a bad time to be more compassionate, to your own self or to our fellow brothers and sisters. This moon just happens to be offering wonderful opportunity to heal these wounds on a deeper level, on a larger scale, find more balance in our internal worlds, with the idea in mind that our external world will reflect that!

I hope this helps you in harnessing this Pink Full Moon energy and in releasing that which no longer serves you. I trust that what ever may be coming up for us individually, and collectively, there is a solution to it found in nature. Creator has blessed us with so many wonderful gifts for our healing and life processing. And… just for the record, if you happen to miss the full moon opportunity, good news; There is always another full moon on its way, and even more good news! You don’t have to wait for the moon to make Positive Change in your life. Start now, start today, just start somewhere. Lets work together to heal this planet, one person at a time, starting with ourselves! <3

If you have any questions or comments please feel free to ask and share. Enjoy! And Happy Pink Full Moon my friends! 🙂

Katie Wise ACM


“Believe it can be done. When you believe something can be done, really believe, your mind will find the ways to do it. Believing a solution paves the way to solution.”
― David J. Schwartz


The first part of believing is BEing.  So many of us are out there everyday doing all this stuff… to have something… and then we become the person that has that.  Whether it be financial success, physical health, a happy relationship, or anything else for that matter the process is backwards.  We are taught this backwards process of DO HAVE BE in so many ways.  From our parents, to our schools, to our reality TV shows, and so much more we are programmed that hard work is the key to getting the results that we want.  Now don’t get me wrong hard work is definitely key but the point is that first… before you DO anything… you must BELIEVE that what it is you are after is possible.  It’s already yours.  It can be done… It is done !!!

BE before you DO anything.  This is difficult to do for most as it requires serious imagination and unwavering faith.  You literally act and live as if you already have what it is your going after.  BE DO HAVE.

Let me give you a couple of examples.  

In the first example lets use the single person that is wanting (want usually just leads to more want) the perfect relationship.  DO HAVE BE is things like keeping a clean look and going out looking for someone to meet.  Using dating sites and purchasing new outfits to attract some new looks.  Going on dates and finding someone that has taken interest.  Not being yourself until you HAVE a relationship.  This generally leads to mask wearing, frustration, and more want.  BE DO HAVE is making tea for two even though you are single.  Making room in your closet for someone else’s clothes.  Journaling about your wonderful relationship everyday.  You see you must BElieve that you are already in this relationship, at which time the re-conditioning starts, which ultimately leads to seizing opportunities that you would have missed if you were DOing too much.  Thus attracting the perfect mate.

In the second example lets use the obese adult that wants to lose weight.  DOing things like going to the gym, trying diets, contemplating liposuction, buying clothes that make you look thin, and so many other things are DOne to HAVE a thinner waistline and then you finally BEcome a physically fit person.  BACKWARDS!  This whole time living in frustration along with the ups and downs that come with doubt.  Not believing from the beginning.  Instead BE thin!  See a thin you in the mirror. Journal about being thin. Think thin thoughts.  Act thin. Dream thin.  As the re-conditioning starts you’ll begin to reprogram and not even smell the fries or the Cinnabon and have that extra energy for the gym.  You’ll truly want to go to the gym… WHY?  BECAUSE YOU ARE THIN !!!  You’ll be attracted to the leafy greens instead of the red meat AND EAT HEALTHY BECAUSE YOU ARE HEALTHY.

Your mind is so powerful that the hypnotic state of BElieving things that do not exist as if they did exist will catapult you into this reality with much quicker response and a ridiculously easier road to travel.  When you BElieve something ALREADY IS your mind says ‘well this is so lets do it like we should since that is the truth’ without knowing the truth.  The mind does not know right from wrong or true or false.  Things are what they are because that is what you think they are.  This concept of BE DO HAVE is one of the major keys to getting the life you want.  Just start by acting like you already have it before you DO anything.  Once you have established the unwavering belief that this is your reality then go work hard!!!

So. Much. Love.


Crystal of the Week


Amethyst is a very popular stone, well known by many, and was one of the first stones I ever had the pleasure of working with. With its soft purple hew and comforting energy, whats not to love about Amethyst? After all, it was once revered as the “Jewel of the Gods!” The Neolithic people used it as early as 25,000 BC!

Lets get into some science behind this beauty!

Amethyst is a silicate, part of the quartz family, and owes its purple coloring from irradiation, iron impurities and trace elements. Coming from the trigonal crystal system, you will generally see it has a hexagon shape, 6 sides, and has a hardness of 7. It can be found in Brazil, Mexico, Canada, Russia and the USA, to name a few…

The name ‘Amethyst’ comes from Greek origins and means ‘not drunk’ LOL pretty funny, but appropriate, as it brings awareness to truth of our connection to the unseen world. ‘Not drunk’, or better explained as lifting the veil of confusion from our crown chakra and third eye, clearing the ‘fog’ of our misguided concepts.

This particular stone can be found in many forms: points, clusters, geodes, and has been tumbled into spheres or other polished forms. My personal favorite is the cluster 🙂

OK, so now that I’ve shared some geology with you, lets get to the emotional and energetic qualities of Amethyst, or what geo geeks, like me, to refer to as Amy (pronounced Am-EE)!

This pretty purple stone has been known for centuries as a protective, purifying, and divine connection stone. It also can aid one in releasing addictions (hence the name ‘not drunk’ but not limited to alcohol). It works with the third eye and crown chakra, and above. You may have heard of it being referenced as a stone of friendship and that I believe is because of its ability to open up our minds to the connection we all share in spirit. It assists us in seeing that we are divinely connected as brothers and sisters, one big spiritual family.

Amethyst lends a psychic protection, creating an ‘energetic shield’ or EMF (electromagnetic field) of light around the wearer. This wards off negativity in ones environment. It had a high, sweet like energy that will uplift you when perhaps you are feeling low, or down, but soothing enough to sleep with under your pillow and keep in your bedroom.

As well as creating a cocoon of light protection, Amy is known to activate the higher mind, allowing clearer comprehension of lifes experiences. It can show us our hold ups, fears, or root cause of dis-ease and imbalance. Lending us a hand in identifying our damaging beliefs, or limited thought patterns serves us in letting go of these patterns that no longer serve us, do not resonate with our present life, or were never ours to begin with. Being aware of these energetic ties is the first step in recovering our power and changing our physical reality. Amy helps us essentially to see our ego-driven self destructive patterns, and take responsibility by reminding us we are co-creators with the Universe.

How sweet is that! Amethyst is just one of MANY stones that offer us healing and awareness. Our Creator is so generous with all the tools that have been provided to us for our healing, growth and expansion. Its really so heart touching when we learn more about the crystals, plants, and animals we sometimes take for granted around us. When we get a chance to slow down and connect with any of these God given elements, we are always reminded of the beauty of life itself. I have found that, for myself, Amethyst has helped me remember and stay in my purpose, protect me from energetic negativity, and see more clearly my path when I do fall into the occasional stoop, as we all do from time to time. It’s ok when we forget, we are all in this together, and can lean on each other, and these tools, to serve as a reminder when needed.

My hope for you is that this may be some food for thought, so that it may feed you SOUL.

If you have any questions about Amethyst, I’d be glad to answer them for you.

Namaste, and many crystal blessings to you!

Katie Wise ACM


Your brain – every brain – is a work in progress.  It is ‘plastic.’  From the day we’re born to the day we die, it continuously revises and remodels, improving or slowly declining, as a function of how we use it.

-Michael Merzenich

One thing that I teach regularly is that there is a huge difference between how THE brain works and how YOUR brain works.  The studies are endless that represent the uncovered characteristics of the human brain and how it works.  For as long as we have known of its’ existence we have wondered and studied about the amazing and powerful brain.  Sometimes referred to as the MIND, we are constantly in awe at the amazing abilities this organ has throughout our life span.  What is even more profound than how THE brain works is the concept of how YOUR brain works.  It is not the same as someone else’s.

Generally the functions of THE brain are identical throughout our species as well as other species.  With regards to human adults we can say that all of our brains work in similar fashions and have many identical and similar traits.  If you cut the human brain from the skull you will see that they have consistencies in size, weight, and other properties.  The right side and left side perform the same for all brains.  What we know about THE brain is consistent among all humans.  What I help others to realize is that how THE brain works and how YOUR brain works are two totally different things.

In the quote here from Michael Merzenich, at the very end, you see the word WE.  How WE use it.  Not how IT is.  Although our brains are the same physically, biologically, etc. they are not the same in the way that we are not all raised the same, we do not all have the same environment, we do not all have the same genetics or innate qualities, and our brains are not all subject to the same conditions and situations.  We have different aspirations and goals.  We have different likes and dislikes.  We are all different.  The daily practices that you maintain are not as easy for you as they are for someone else and visa-versa.  It’s our programming and conditioning, along with our genetics and astrology that make us individuals, and, as individuals we find that our brains are not the same.  Although all of our brains are similar in many ways they are actually very, very different.

It is important in life to know that all brains are a work in progress.  That although our brains are identical in many ways they are definitely not the same.  Understanding how THE brain works is powerful.  Understanding how YOUR brain works is even more powerful.  


I recommend to my clients to get a better understanding about who they are deep inside.  Beyond just a unique thinking human who like this sports team and who’s favorite food is… whatever.  Looking at your past ancestors, natal astrological charts, deep soul born passions, and much more will give you a much clearer picture of how YOUR brain works thus making goal acquisition, successful achievements, peace and harmony, and other things extremely attainable.  Learning about how YOUR brain works will allow you to rest easy when something that you are trying to achieve is a struggle when so-and-so just did it in two weeks.  Learning about how YOUR brains works will allow you to recognize and better relate to those that struggle with things that are simple for you.  All in all making the world a better place to live.


Here to serve…




The key is not to prioritize what’s on your schedule, but to schedule your priorities.           -Stephen Covey


With all that we can face as working individuals with families and priorities we can find ourselves at the end of the day wondering what happened to the last 24 hours.

As I sit here typing this Wednesday evening I can’t help but be compelled to push this post off now to make the Wednesday deadline, Pacific standard time at least.  Sometimes when I am feeling very creative I can push through a couple of Wonders and schedule them to post each Wednesday at a specific time.  Other times I am woken up at 2am by the thought of the upcoming Wonder, and what it will look like, anticipating where I will fit time into my schedule to put it together.  I try to feel through it.  I try to let go.  Letting go seems to be easier on the busy days like today though.  I was gently reminded about this post around 10:30 at night this evening as I prepared the final details for a class I am teaching tomorrow and thought, well, I put it on my schedule for today.  Good thing I remembered.  HA!  How may of you are guilty of beating yourself up when you get that reminder?  Are your reminders not so gentle?

For some of us we can let it go and regret.  Some of us can let it go and rejoice.  Others can integrally smile and finish the project.  And others can not.

We are all built differently and the way that you handle these situations is unique to you in so many ways.  Looking back on my day I can confirm that my day was productive.  There was no responsibility lacking on my part.  I did many things from the time I woke and this post simply slipped to the next page of my scheduled priorities even though I never thought about it until it was almost too late.  Nothing I did today was less important than putting this out there for you all.  Not that these posts are not important to me.  Not that you aren’t important to me but simply that my children, my projects, my financial responsibilities, and my health are higher priorities than this post.  For some people that means sleeping in.  Other times that means taking the time and spending the money to go out to eat instead of eating the crap in your house because you haven’t been grocery shopping in a while.  Sometimes that means saying no to a night out… or saying yes to a night out even!

If all you ever do is prioritize your schedule you may never really accomplish the REAL priorities.  Make sure that health, finances, family, and SELF are your main priorities and schedule those in with the other things that make you happy or need to be done.  It’s truly a fine balance.  I would of got this post and another item on my schedule finished on time today if I wouldn’t of gone to the gym… but it was getting late in the day and the gym is a significant priority of mine and I ALWAYS REMEMBER TO SCHEDULE MY PRIORITIES AND NOT PRIORITIZE WHAT IS ON MY SCHEDULE.


Practice makes perfect.


-Ray Wallen-


“Anything I’ve ever said, I certainly was feeling at the time.”       -Eminem

Loving yourself with the concept of validating your own feelings, and the feelings of others, in every moment is quite a concept to wonder about.  Yes, FEEL!!!  Yes, surround yourself with people that accept your feelings and love you for expressing them blindly.  But do not forget about the power of the Mind.  Life is all communications.  We are constantly communicating through feeling and thought with ourselves, our family, friends, coworkers, and the other beings around us.  Words, tone, body language, telepathy, and cellular communications, are just a few of the ways that we communicate endlessly day to day.  Some say that through this process of non-stop communication we are trying to sell ourselves and others on our reality or, in other words, our feelings.  When we look closely we can see how our feelings can affect our languages deeply and, if not controlled, can ruin our ability to communicate for the good.

Can you recall a time when you were feeling so great that you gave something away for free…

…AND felt regret?

Can you remember a time when you felt so angry that you said something you shouldn’t have…

…AND felt regret?

We say what we are feeling.  We move through this life by our heart yet everything that comes out of our mouth passes through the brain prior to entering your world.  There is absolutely nothing wrong with feeling as it is a beautiful experience to feel deeply and needed for a healthy experience here on earth.  Recognize that when you feel a certain way that your body changes, your demeanor and thoughts change, your tone changes, the way you communicate with others changes… so many changes happen when you feel.  Only in certain situations does the mind really process the words we say before they come out naturally.  Think of it like this… Once the words exist as a thought of yours they can then be processed by the brain prior to being spoken by ourselves.  At this point we can choose to let them fly or change them up a bit, or maybe not even say it at all.  There are also times when we speak without any thought at all, feelings fly straight from the heart.  There are times when emotion morphs into thoughts that enter our mind and rest there for a moment while we process them before actually speaking them, almost simultaneously.  Then there are also times when we can’t quite place the feelings we are having and need a more significant amount of time before speaking.   If ever speaking on them.  

Word-Tracking is a method of analyzing your thoughts as they arrive and looking at them for clues about the way you are feeling and how to move forward with the communication in front of you.  Practice this week allowing your words to go through a consciously created filter before being spoken to your world (yes that includes YOURself).  To be able to stand up tall and smile even though you are having a rough feeling.  To stand firm with your business plan even though you are feeling super generous at the moment.  To be so angry but consciously hold back your words as to give them some thought before you speak.  There are too many times in our lives when, with just a little bit of thought, we can better communicate with the world around us thus making it a better place to live.



“While you judge me by my outward appearance I am silently doing the same to you, even

though there’s a ninety-percent chance that in both cases our assumptions are wrong.”

― Richelle E. Goodrich


Do you judge others?

Do you judge yourself through the eyes of others?

Have you been trying to stop doing this your whole life?

Does it have to take a long time before you can stop?


Do you judge others?  YES…  DUH

Do you judge yourself through the eyes of others?  YES…

     Did you grow up in a normal town or city?  Do you go out in public?  Do you reside with others?  Do you have friends?  YES!  Of course you judge others and yourself in such a way.  Unless you have been in a bubble your whole life or grew up with a pack of wolves you certainly struggle with the wonder of what other people think about you and judge yourself accordingly as well as judge others in the same way. I can guarantee that if you are on a phone or computer reading this that you have struggled with this wonder.

Have you been trying to stop doing this your whole life?  YES…

     Do you recognize when you judge someone else?  Do you notice when you feel the need to act, speak, dress, etc. a certain way because you are worried about what someone else may think?  Are you aware of the world around you and the vast amount of judgment and measuring we do as a society?  YES!  Then of course you have been trying to stop the nonsense of judging others and doing things a certain way because of what others think… your whole life.  You are not alone.

Does it have to take a long time before you can stop?

     Here’s the thing.  As humans we NEVER stop this form of judgment.  It’s actually a healthy mechanism we have that, when recognized and used positively, can help us to excel to great heights in the world.  It’s healthy ego.  It’s friendly competition.  It’s normal in moderation and when used for good in a controlled state can be helpful in our everyday lives.

Wonder on this…

     When you see someone sleeping on the sidewalk what happens in your mind and heart?

     What about when you see someone driving your dream car?

Do you judge them?  Do they judge you?

     YES !!!  We judge others and get the same complex feelings that they get when they judge us.  How do we process these feelings and thoughts is the question.  To the person sleeping on the sidewalk we can be judged as better off and this can inspire them to get out of a situation.  It can also create depression in them and they can get angry.  You see the judgment takes place regardless, it’s the perspective and the reaction to the thought and feeling from the judgment that makes all the difference.  The definition of the word JUDGE as a verb is to ‘form an opinion or conclusion about’.  The opinion is formed.  The conclusion is made.  You can’t help it, you’re human.  Now… how does that conclusion make you feel?  I can judge the person sleeping on the sidewalk just as the person driving by in the car of my dreams can judge me and visa versa.  The opinion and conclusion that forms is almost instantaneous and uncontrollable.  I am not going to get into the plethora of possibilities that come up given these two scenarios for the reason that… well… YOU ALREADY KNOW BECAUSE YOU’VE BEEN JUDGING PEOPLE YOUR WHOLE LIFE.  We never know what someone has been through so we cant judge their experiences any further than the normal human reaction to initially form the conclusion or opinion.  It’s their experience right?  Cancel the judgment.  Relate.  Use it to fuel your success.  Use it to find kindness in your heart.  Strengthen your compassion muscles.  Be thankful for what you have.  Love yourself.  Work harder.

     I tell my clients all the time that unless you decide to move to a monk village in the mountains you will always judge people and be judged.  Don’t beat yourself up for the judgement that shows up in your mind throughout the day and don’t be upset when you feel judged by someone else either.  React accordingly and love the subconscious mind for what it is.  As long as you are in control of the feeling that arises from the back and forth of this judging then you will be just fine.



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