“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” ― Eleanor Roosevelt
NO ONE MAKES YOU FEEL.
Nobody can control your thoughts and emotions except for you. In order for someones actions to cause you to feel any certain way you have to consent to the feeling that rises within you. With the exception of the underdeveloped brain in infants, toddlers, young children, and the occasional adult, we can understand that we have so much control over the way we feel.
This is what makes being human so beautiful yet so challenging at the same time.
Your thoughts equal your feelings.
Your feelings equal your emotions.
Your emotions equal your actions.
Your actions equal your results.
In no way am I suggesting that you ignore your feelings based upon this knowledge. Sure there may be a time and place to do just that but the answer lies within the ability to own your feelings and recognize what you need to learn. When feelings arrive from what seems like nothing at times, or, straight from him or her or this or that at other times, they can bring forth strong emotion to your moment. Two things are important to remember in that moment. First, this feeling is normal and you are not crazy. Something has come up for you in the form of emotion that you can look at and that is a beautiful thing. There is no harm in sitting with this feeling and seeking its origination, past reasoning, and life lesson. Second, This feeling is yours and yours only. In no way is the way you’re feeling the responsibility of someone else.
You cannot blame the way you feel on others.
I’m sure you have memories of a time when you were able to brush off some bad news and maintain happiness. Or times when you were furious about a person or situation yet found a way to breath through and forget about it while keeping your positive mindset.
Then there are the times that you completely lost control in a similar situation. When someone got underneath your skin and you were mad for a whole week causing you frustrations that seemed to ripple out into your entire day… messing everything up.
When we analyze these similar situations in our life we see that we have been the cause of our state of mind all along. BE at cause, not the effect. This week practice BEing at cause and not at the effect of the people and situations around you. You have done it before and the more you become cautious of your strengths in these moments the stronger they become leading to more control and happiness.